Why my 2017 is going to include *a lot* of Quility and me time!
By Jenni Shipp
2016 has been a crazy year!
For me, it has had some pretty amazing highs, lots of changes to digest and some moments of wondering what on earth I am doing!
This was the year I set off to the Dordogne to officially become Mrs Shipp and also made the decision to leave my full time job and start The Baby Sleep Shop, the stuff of dreams!
For the beginning of the year my maternity leave was spent brain storming and researching like mad my ideas for The Baby Sleep Shop, an online boutique specialising in a baby sleeping bags, which I LOVE! It has been a brilliant journey so far, part exhilarating and part petrifying.
The decision to leave my full time job was not taken lightly; I love my children and want to spend time with them…. But I also know that my role, my colleagues and having my own money to spend as well as the fact I worked hard and felt respected, successful and like I knew what I was doing were all very important factors in what made me, me and kept me ticking.
My most testing moments now don’t come from the panic that I’ve booked someone on the wrong flight from Bahrain to Doha and what I’m going to treat myself to for lunch from somewhere lovely (no washing up, yay), but the panic that I have a toddler with potty training regression, big financial changes and the knowledge that now I am responsible for raising two little people and I have no clue what I’m doing. At least when I was at work my son was with a childminder, who did have a clue 🙂
One of the best things I have experienced this year is the amazing sisterhood of mums around and in particular, mums in business. My journey this year has led me to meet with so many interesting new people and there is an overwhelming attitude of help and support for each other. Having gone straight from school to college, to work in the corporate work I’ve never experienced so many supportive women, it’s been so amazing. My support network of friends and family seems so much more important now I am living this life full time. Before I felt constantly conflicted between corporate Jenni and Mummy Jenni, bringing corporate ‘get things done’ Jenni home with me.
An important value for me is to work with as many other mummy businesses and brands as possible. There are some truly amazing, beautiful and unique products out there all created by SUPER Mamas, so proud to be part of the huge network of mums in business.
So, my aims for 2017 are along the lines of taking something up, rather than giving something up… I have dipped in and out of Quility before but never really made time for it.
Quility is an app – mindfulness tailored around parenting, meditation for mothers.
Our lives are SO crazy busy these days, I feel now I’m home all day that I don’t have five minutes to myself… but then look at my best friend rushing around working, picking her daughter up, getting in late, cooking, basically doing it all too and think I shouldn’t really moan, at least I can rush around and see the kids all day and not put up with work stresses. Life is just busy! And I have been rubbish at making time to chill out. A good friend of mine always makes a point of saying ‘be kind to yourself’. With busy lives, feeling guilty about everything (dammed if we do, dammed if we don’t!), and lack of real down time, we set ourselves up to feel mental every so often!
I believe that so much can be achieved if you set your mind up right and do more positive things to have a healthy body and mind. Towards the end of 2016 my body has been drowning in wine and gin most nights (to take the edge off and celebrate the end of each long day!) and my mind has been caught in a new experience of a 24/7 constant work state… I go to bed and sit on my phone reading, Instagraming and generally not switching off. My aim therefore is to stick to my ten minutes a day, at bedtime to clear my mind and keep my troubles out of the bedroom… finding new ways to handle my stress to get less angry with the children over things that, really, don’t matter in the grand scheme of life. Improving my patience is definitely on my to-do list!
My favourite Christmas presents this year were; ‘The Life Plan’ by Shannah Kennedy, ‘Step Up’ by Phanella Mayall Fine & Alice Olins, and my Hello Day Planner (which I knew I wanted as soon as I saw it!) have meant I can spend some time sitting down and getting my thoughts in order (Plus a few special tasty gins which always helps!) I am a PA by nature and I definitely need order in my life and my thoughts are included in that, I have the worst memory and need to write everything down, I feel better when my thoughts are in order and even better, written down so I don’t forget! I just can’t operate from my memory alone! I would highly recommend each book though – something positive to read a little bit of each day, inspiring women, helping instil the message: